Femdom Baroness Bunny offers her testimony on the healing properties of power exchange
Mia Lancaster (she/her) // Letters Editor
Anya Ali-Mulzet (they/them) // Illustrator
Bondage, rope, breath and power: these are all elements of Baroness Bunny’s practice as a professional ‘Femdom.’ Since graduating with a degree in business and UX design, Baroness has been dominating her followers at Vancouver’s Succubus Temple, creating a tailored experience where frustration, restraint, devotion and pleasure can co-exist. With training in ballet and jazz, Baroness Bunny has also gained national recognition for her fierce pole dancing, placing first in the 2024 Canadian Pole and Aerial Championship and most recently joining the panel of judges for the 2025 competition. As her chapter in Vancouver comes to a close, and new beginnings take root in Berlin, Baroness Bunny joins the Courier for a conversation on Zoom; 12 p.m. Vancouver time, 9 p.m. Berlin time.
Baroness had long been interested in the BDSM (bondage and discipline; dominance and submission; sadism and masochism) world and had previously experimented, but the gleaming opportunity to develop a career as a Femdom came when she enrolled in a mentorship program led by Succubus Temple’s Headmistress, Mistress Damazonia. At this point, Baroness had been traveling all over Canada and stripping, but was feeling burnt out and craving change. The timing and energy seemed to line up for her, as she says, “Right as I was feeling burnt out I saw, [Damazonia] was accepting new mentees. So, I just saw it as a sign.”
She explains that growing up in a conservative and traditional Chinese household significantly impacted her views on boundaries and sexuality, as she says,“I was raised in a way during my childhood where my boundaries were never respected. So, at some point in my adult life, I lost my ability to say no. . . And, at some point, I didn’t even realize. It’s not that I thought ‘no’ in certain situations and couldn’t voice it. My mind wouldn’t even realize I could refuse something.” Baroness calls this auto-compliance trauma. She divulged that this mindset made it difficult to navigate boundaries with clients as a stripper, and even affected her relationships. Baroness recounts her approach to domming before her healing journey took shape, saying, “I controlled men because I was terrified of them. I feared that they would waste my time, push my boundaries [or] disrespect me. And, [during] the first year of domming, I still had that fear. That’s what drove my sessions.”
For those who have faced traumatic experiences—such as boundaries being crossed in the past, religious trauma or cultural stigma around sexuality—kink play and BDSM can offer alternative means to healing and understanding these deeply rooted parts of ourselves and our psyche. Without having to address the trauma directly or discuss the difficult and gritty details with someone else, kink can allow people to confront their trauma while still sharing a profound bond with their chosen partner(s) and explore themselves more intimately. Baroness notes, “It’s hard to talk about BDSM without talking about trauma to a certain extent […] I feel like a lot of our kinks and fetishes are shaped by trauma.”
When people think of female dominance, they often think of the way Femdoms have been portrayed in Hollywood: as women with a chance to inflict extreme pain, perhaps as some kind of excuse to unleash all the internalized anger on men. Of course, there are many valid reasons for women to be angry, especially as many of us continue to struggle with power imbalances in the workplace while societal expectations and standards and products are thrust upon us by patriarchal and capitalist systems. However, in Baroness’ experience, dominance can be very gentle and stems from a place of consideration, care or even love for your follower.
“I think what helped in some ways was actually embodying the dom role in my personal life. Not that I would be a dom to reward specific people in my personal life, but I would try and channel the energy. […] And, it was different when it was in my personal life because I cared about the people in my personal life.” She emphasizes, “That was like the final switch. Now, I feel like when I dom, I can do it out of compassion and care for the other person instead of fear.”
With the momentum Baroness has gathered in the industry, the move over to Germany was a logical choice to continue the growth and discover opportunities, as Berlin is a city known for its thriving kink and fetish scene. Baroness plans to continue performing, teaching pole dancing and embodying the power of a Femdom.
For updates on her dancing and domming, follow @baronessbunnyofficial on Instagram.